S'more Fun

I had fully planned to finally introduce you to our wedding party this week, as the ladies had a November 1st deadline to get me their bios. Well, Krissi is the only one who complied, so alas I'll be putting off the introductions for yet another week or so. Ladies, ya'll are officially being called out...next I'll be calling you!

So far, the most difficult aspect of wedding planning for me has been managing my time. Wait, no. Its been not wedding planning all the time. Especially when I have the PHI in town. See, he lives about 3 hours away and although I get to see him regularly, I cant help but want to talk wedding when he's here in person (mostly because pics are worth a thousand words.

Anyway, as a way to do something fun with the PHI, we decided to make s'mores Saturday night. It was pretty brisk outside and we lit a really cool fire and proceeded to have cute-couple time.

Here are a few pics from that night:

supplies!

first, you need a marshmallow

stick it in the fire! (gotta love my mini grill)

gotta wait for it to be just right. yes, I burned it on purpose...give it character!

Imagine I sandwiched the above marshmallow between two pieces of graham cracker and a piece of chocolate. Then fast-forward to this:

the happy couple after a couple s'mores!
I love making s'mores with the PHI. It was kinda new territory for both of us: he'd never made one and I'd never made on in my back yard. And it was fun having this adventure together. I'm learning that while its important to wedding plan so that the day goes off without a hitch, its just as (if not moreso) important to nurture the relationship right now so that after the wedding-dust has settled, there really will be a happily ever after.

♥

Happy Weekend!

P.S. No, your eyes aren't playing tricks on you...were outside and yes, thats the porch light on. I promise it was for a good/fun reason. We just looked so cute and I had to share. I'll show you what we were doing next week, k. ♥

Dont Know Much About Reform School

A few years ago I discovered Wild Words from Wild Women (WW fr WW for short). As the name suggests, its chock full or quotes from all kinds of women on all kinds of things. Totally sounds like something I’d be into, right? My favorite WW fr WW are about relationships, and Thursday’s didn’t let me down:

“Marriage is not a reform school” – Ann Landers

That Ann Landers is the truth.

My mama has given me some really good advice over the years. In fact, a lot of it I still quote like it’s the gospel. A lot of it I internalize, personalize, and pass along to my friends. Today’s “Mama Said” tidbit: You shouldn’t try to change a man. And now I frequently share that with others…actually, its one of my best pieces of relationship advice (yes, I’m popping my own collar). The thing is, that savory tidbit extends beyond men – you shouldn’t try to change people, period. I’ve found that you have no control over who someone else is – what they think, what they say, what they do. But what you are fully in control of is how you respond to them. You are choosing to get mad. You are choosing to be thrilled. You are choosing not to care. However you manage to cope is completely up to you, but you must realize it’s the only thing you can reliably control.

Knowing and loving the PHI has taught me a good bit about men. Sometimes we just think differently. I’m a processer, I’m a back-up plan-er (yes, I made that up…I’m usually working on an alternative approach while I’m pitching the current one to him). That whole go-with-your-gut thing? I have a “practical” gut, whereas his gut is a dreamer. I’m creative and girly. He’s a man’s man thru and thru. But we totally work. Partially because I’ve never tried to change him (and the other part because just rocks).

Last but not least, loving the PHI just supports something I’ve always known. You have to take ownership over your thoughts, feelings and actions. You have to take people at where/who they are and what path their life is on, and deal. Love them, or leave them alone.

Besides, how would you feel if someone tried to change you?

Exactly. ♥

Reason #942 why I ♥ the PHI

No, I don’t actually have a list of reasons why I love the PHI…I just do, and if I sat down to write said list, please believe it would be really long.

The point is that as you all know, I moved wedding-speak here to its new blog home yesterday. I didn’t get a chance to really tell the PHI about it until kind of late last night. He was marginally excited. You know the requisite amount of excitement so as not to set me off on a line of questioning about why he isn’t excited – lol.

In the course of our chat about the new blog, I casually mentioned to him that if he was ever interested, he was more than welcome to be a guest blogger on Soon to Be Mrs. Patti (STBMP). Can ya’ll believe the man got excited? I’m so serious, he acted like I had just given him a new PlayStation or something.

Idunno if it’s him wanting to feel included, or he’s been secretly harboring a blogger inside of that [sexy] head of his, but the man seemed genuinely pleased about the possibility of contributing to my wedding blog.

That’s why I love him folks.

How could you not love a man like that?

♥